{"id":3193,"date":"2010-05-10T11:02:34","date_gmt":"2010-05-10T15:02:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/joyfullyjobless.com\/blog\/?p=3193"},"modified":"2010-05-10T11:02:34","modified_gmt":"2010-05-10T15:02:34","slug":"making-peace-with-rejection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/joyfullyjobless.com\/blog\/2010\/05\/making-peace-with-rejection\/","title":{"rendered":"Making Peace With Rejection"},"content":{"rendered":"

I am not alone in loving Bach\u2019s Brandenburg Concertos<\/em>. Classical music stations report that listener surveys always list them as a top favorite.<\/p>\n

Did you know that this perennial favorite began life as a huge failure?\u00a0<\/p>\n

The Concertos<\/em> were written as an audition for a commission Bach hoped to get with the city of Brandenburg, Germany. Amazingly, he lost the competition.<\/p>\n

No one seems to remember who the winner was.<\/p>\n

Bach is not the only creative soul, of course, whose work met with rejection before success came along. Writer John Grisham sent his first novel to sixteen agents before one of them agreed to take him as a client.\u00a0<\/p>\n

That agent submitted A Time to Kill<\/em><\/strong> to twenty-six publishers before one bought it, bringing out a meager 5,000 copies.<\/p>\n

Since that humble\u2014and humbling\u2014 beginning, Grisham has topped the bestseller charts with every book he\u2019s written and has millions of copies of his books in print around the world.<\/p>\n

While history is full of stories of early defeat that turned into astonishing success later on, there is no record of all the good ideas that got put away in a drawer after encountering a first rejection.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Too many people make the classic error of deciding in advance that acceptance can only come in one way. If the prospective client or lover or friend turns us down, we may lose sight of the fact that our true goal was to make a sale or have a romance or build a new relationship.\u00a0<\/p>\n

We forget that our goal (and our self) is just fine. We simply made the mistake of picking a dancing partner that didn\u2019t want to dance.<\/p>\n

Think about a time when early rejection cleared the way for something or someone better to enter your life. Use that memory to keep you going whenever you encounter rejection and you\u2019ll pile up evidence that rejection may actually be a valuable stepping stone to your dreams.\u00a0<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a big difference between those who accept rejection as part of the success process and those who avoid it at all costs. Despite all the evidence that rejection is a universal theme in every success story, fear of rejection seems to be a powerful deterrent for many who will do almost anything to avoid the discomfort of being rejected.\u00a0<\/p>\n

As it turns out, life\u2019s grandest prizes are rejecting them.<\/p>\n

The next time that fear of rejection stops you from tackling a dreaded task, remind yourself that the anticipation of rejection is almost always worse than the reality of it.\u00a0<\/p>\n

All of us have known those agonizing times spent before we proposed marriage, made a sales presentation or gave a talk.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Yet on those occasions when our worst fear were realized, the experience wasn\u2019t nearly as horrible as imagining it had been.<\/p>\n

So what project have you tucked away because it didn\u2019t get off to a great start? There are all sorts of reasons why success doesn\u2019t happen the first time out.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Maybe you were ahead of your time. Or, perhaps, you needed to get some experience that would help you find a better way of doing things. Or you may have met with failure because you hadn\u2019t yet connected with the proper person.\u00a0<\/p>\n

While I still don\u2019t love rejection, I have a clearer perspective on it since encountering some advice from writer Barbara Kingsolver. Although it\u2019s aimed at writers, it\u2019s equally appropriate to anyone going after a dream.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Kingsolver says, \u201cDon’t consider your returned manuscript rejected. Consider that you\u2019ve addressed it, \u2018To the editor who can appreciate my work,\u2019 and it simply came back stamped, \u2018Not at this address.\u2019 Just keep looking for the right address.\u201d<\/p>\n

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I am not alone in loving Bach\u2019s Brandenburg Concertos. Classical music stations report that listener surveys always list them as a top favorite. Did you know that this perennial favorite began life as a huge failure?\u00a0 The Concertos were written as an audition for a commission Bach hoped to get with the city of Brandenburg,…<\/p>\n

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