{"id":2756,"date":"2010-02-12T12:33:09","date_gmt":"2010-02-12T16:33:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/joyfullyjobless.com\/blog\/?p=2756"},"modified":"2010-02-12T12:33:09","modified_gmt":"2010-02-12T16:33:09","slug":"truly-madly-deeply","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/joyfullyjobless.com\/blog\/2010\/02\/truly-madly-deeply\/","title":{"rendered":"Truly, Madly, Deeply"},"content":{"rendered":"

When Karyn Ruth White<\/a> was a little girl she discovered that she could diffuse her father\u2019s anger\u2014and subsequent punishment\u2014if she could make him laugh. Her father gave her plenty of opportunities to practice and she honed her comedic skills early in life. Somewhere along the way she decided that she wanted to spend her life making as many people laugh as she possibly could.<\/p>\n

Karyn left her New England home after college and headed to Los Angeles to build a career as a stand-up comedian. After seven years of performing in nightclubs, she realized she wasn\u2019t happy and it terrified her. She says, \u201cI was afraid to stop because it was my dream and I thought if my dream isn\u2019t making me happy, what\u2019s going to become of me?\u201d<\/p>\n

Finally, she did walk away and gave herself time out. She worked at a number of mundane jobs while trying to figure out the next step.\u00a0<\/p>\n

And figure it out, she did.<\/p>\n

Today she continues to keep people laughing, but she\u2019s reinvented herself as a speaker. Some of her stand-up material still finds its way into corporate presentations.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Karyn hardly took a straight path\u2014even in her current incarnation. Five years into building her speaking business, she felt burned out. Again, she gave herself permission to walk away, but then had an insight that changed everything.<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u201cI realized that it\u2019s not the dream that\u2019s the problem. It was the way I was doing the dream,\u201d she says. \u201cI was doing everything myself and I just couldn\u2019t keep up.\u201d<\/p>\n

She let the dream get bigger and gathered a team that included a personal assistant, an accountant and a Web designer. She says she learned to set boundaries and reminds herself that the essence, not the form of her business, is what matters.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Karyn describes the essence as, \u201cTo follow my soul and use my gifts for the greater good.\u201d If the form that takes changes, she\u2019s fine with it as long as the essence remains intact.<\/p>\n

Making a commitment to the essence of your business is quite different than getting stuck in the form.<\/p>\n

In their book Creating Money<\/em><\/strong>, Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer explain, \u201cThe essence of something is the function you want this item to perform, the purposes you will use it for, or what you think it will give you. Many things other than what you picture might give you the essence of what you want, so be open to letting what you want come in whatever way, size, shape or form is most appropriate.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n

Clarifying the essence of what you want in your life is also a way of gaining overall clarity and peace. It takes both time and practice to create while focusing on the essence of what you\u2019re doing or what you want to have.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Commitment \u00a0is a lot like love. It grows and strengthens over time when we\u2019re truly committed to something that we care deeply about.\u00a0<\/p>\n

We don\u2019t always know at the outset what\u00a0 will become commitment-worthy. What may begin as a simple flirtation, becomes more compelling as we learn more, increase our exposure and devote our energy to it.\u00a0<\/p>\n

For many of us, we\u2019ve tried to make commitments to things and people and ideas that we really weren\u2019t that crazy about. As the poet\u00a0 David Whyte warns, \u201cAnyone or anything that does not bring you alive is too small for you.\u201d<\/p>\n

No wonder the word commitment elicits feelings of dread and drudgery. And if we\u2019re only willing to commit where the outcome fits our preconceived notions, we\u2019re doomed to a life of commitment avoidance.<\/p>\n

Perhaps commitment needs a new press agent to remind us that building commitment happens one day at a time.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s built on innumerable days of recommitting ourselves for as long as it brings us joy, peace, growth and the essence of our best possible life.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

When Karyn Ruth White was a little girl she discovered that she could diffuse her father\u2019s anger\u2014and subsequent punishment\u2014if she could make him laugh. Her father gave her plenty of opportunities to practice and she honed her comedic skills early in life. Somewhere along the way she decided that she wanted to spend her life…<\/p>\n

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