Sign up now for FREE
Joyfully Jobless News!

Primary Email:
 

JOYFULLY JOBLESS NEWS August 2009
$Account.OrganizationName
In This Issue
-- WHEN DISAPPOINTMENT HAPPENS
-- MAKING IT BETTER
-- ONLY TEN DAYS TO SAVE $$$$
-- ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY TO CONNECT
-- MILLE GRAZIE

As you read this issue, think about these insightful words from Paulo Coelho:

Too often, we decide to follow a path that is not really our own, one that others have set for us. We forget that, whichever way we go, the price is the same: in both cases we will pass through both difficult and happy moments. But when we are living our dream, the difficulties we encounter make sense.


WHEN DISAPPOINTMENT HAPPENS
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Fountain in Rome After years of being self-employed, I thought I'd gotten used to dealing with the ups and downs that are part of it. Then a big project was rejected and it caught me completely by surprise. I had been calmly confident that the project would be sold and was stunned when it was turned down. My first shocked response was, "How could he be so stupid?" A couple of hours later I was enraged. I wallowed. I wept. I wanted revenge. It had been years since I'd felt so hurt and for the first twenty-four hours I felt utterly powerless.

Amazingly, within a matter of a few short days, I was on the road to recovery determined that this would merely be a delay, not a defeat. Since disappointment is sometimes part of the territory for any risk taking entrepreneur, I looked back at what I had done that helped me pass through it with such speed. The next time you receive a blow, try these proactive ideas for getting back on your feet as quickly as possible.

Allow Yourself Time to Feel Bad There's no point in pretending that you aren't disappointed when you are. Cry, scream, yell if that's what you feel like doing. Take to your bed if you're really upset. Rant and rave. Avoid anyone who will try to cheer you up before you're ready to be cheered. Do not remain in this state one minute longer than necessary.

Call on Trusted Friends I let several people know that I wanted and needed sympathy. They were all wonderfully empathetic and assured me that I was terrific and my rejector was obviously a creep that didn't deserve to work with me. They each loyally took my side and let me know that they believed that my project was valid and would find a happier home elsewhere. My spirits began to lift immediately. The best advice came from my friend Karyn who listened to my tale of woe and then reminded me, "Deep mourning lasts about 48 hours for an entrepreneur."

Be Especially Kind to Yourself for Several Days I indulged myself in all sorts of pleasurable activities. I baked brownies, took long bubble baths, rented frivolous movies and avoided all temptation to plunge back into the project. I repeatedly reminded myself that I was worthy of kindness, including my own.

Feed Your Soul I came across a quote from Edmund Burke that fit my needs: "He that wrestles with us strengthens our nerves and sharpens our skills. Our antagonist is our helper." I tried to visualize myself thanking my rejector. I found I didn't have enough imagination to stretch that far, but I could visualize him (after my inevitable and very public success) slapping his forehead and saying, "How could I have been so stupid?" The very thought of that happening accelerated my recovery.

Choose Something Better Shakti Gawain said that whenever something didn't work out as she had planned she immediately affirmed that something better would take its place-and it usually did. I have had plenty of personal experience where my initial disappointment was overshadowed by something grander, something I would have missed if I had had my first choice.

As I began to get specific about what it would take to have an even better achievement than my initial goal, I started to relax and get excited at the new possibilities. With that in mind, another round of unexpected events began to occur. This time, however, they were more appropriate than my original plan. I even began to feel gratitude for the original disappointment.

Act The most important thing I learned from all of this is that counteracting a disappointment with positive action is the best remedy of all. Nothing dims the hurt faster. "It's not what they take away from you that counts," said Hubert Humphrey. "It's what you do with what you have left." The truth is that no matter what the loss, you always have more left than is taken away-especially if you hang onto your determination to succeed.


MAKING IT BETTER
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
If you've been reading my Buon Viaggio blog, you know that I pick a theme every month. August finds me exploring ideas about Making It Better. With that theme in mind, I also scheduled three teleclasses including a brand new one with a special guest expert. If you want to get a head start on making autumn a glorious time for your business, join me for one or more of these evening events.

A Dozen Ways to Build Your Expert Status makes a return visit on Thursday, August 20. We'll look at easy way to expand your visibility and let others know that you're an expert worth listening to.

Then on Monday, August 24, social media expert Christine Gallagher joins me for Conversation Transformation: The Power of Facebook and Twitter to Market Your Small BUsiness. As she points out, "It's a whole new world out there when it comes to marketing yourself. As a small business owner you have the ability to offer what the bigger players can't--a personal, authentic connection directly with your prospects." Not only will she show us why, she'll also show us how. I'm really looking forward to this. So how did I meet Christine? On Facebook and Twitter, of course. If you'd like to read more about this collaboration, check out this blog post from her: Twitter Power! A Fan Gets to Work with a Fave Author.

The third teleclass in the series is included as part of my personal celebration for the publication of Making a Living Without a Job. On Wednesday, August 26, I'll be sharing ideas and information in A Beginner's Guide to Getting Published. There'll be some off the beaten path ideas here (including how I originally got 3 publishers to come to me) along with other basics for seeing your words in print.

Can't make the classes in person? Live on the other side of the world? You can still register and receive the audio download of all three classes. And if you register for 2 or more at the same time, you get a nifty discount.

Joyfully Jobless Teleclasses


ONLY TEN DAYS TO SAVE $$$$
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
With every enrollment that comes in, I get more and more eager for the next Follow Through Camp coming up on September 11 & 12 in Chaska, MN. There are only five spots open so if one of those has your name on it, it's time to let me know. But, first, read what Sandy Dempsey, who attended the first Follow Through Camp, has to say about the experience:

Your events are so much more than just about working for yourself and following through with dreams and ideas. These events are transformative. By the end it felt as if my heart would explode with hope, inspiration and love. Reconnecting with old friends and meeting new friends turned into something so much more than I thought it would be. It was a joy and honor to meet you all. Everyone gave and gave, pushed and dug deeper. It was an amazing experience. The open and honest expression of what was in your hearts was inspiring.

Reminder: the Early Bird discount goes away at midnight on August 15.

Follow Through Camp


ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY TO CONNECT
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Speaking of Sandy Dempsey, I urge you to check out her Dreaming Cafe. Sandy is building a brilliant vehicle to help others spread their own creative wings. You can participate in all sorts of ways. Sign up for her mailing list, visit the blog, participate in the community.

Sandy is also offering a terrific online class which starts on August 15. It's called Taking Your First Steps on the Creative Journey to Self-Discovery. As Sandy has discovered, journaling is one of the key pathways to self-discovery. You can learn more about this e-class by clicking on the link below and going to the Events page.

The Dreaming Cafe


MILLE GRAZIE
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
new cover A big thank you to everyone who has sent kind words and wishes on the publication of Making a Living Without a Job. I'll be doing lots of radio interviews and bookstore appearances/talks in a number of cities. I'll let you know about those as the time draws near. I hope to see you there, if I'm in your neighborhood.

And for all of you who have already placed your order for an autographed copy, I promise to get them sent as soon as possible. If you'd like to see it in a Kindle version, click on the link below and under the cover image click on Tell The Publisher I'd Like to Read This Book on Kindle.

Kindle Request


Buona fortuna,

Barbara


Joyfully Jobless Teleclasses
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
  • Joyfully Jobless Teleclasses
  • Buon Viaggio blog

  • Quick Links...
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
  • Our Website
  • Products
  • Services
  • More About Us


  • Contact Information
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~