May 12, 2011
Barbara Winter's Joyfully Jobless News

It is only by following your deepest instinct that you can lead a rich life. If you let your fear of consequences prevent you from following your deepest instinct then your life will be safe, expedient and thin.
~ Katherine Butler Hathaway

 

In This Issue
5 Ways to Move Past Your Doubts and Get On With It
Two More Ways to Feed Your Entrepreneurial Spirit
Two Special Events
Barbara Online
Buon Viaggio Blog
 
The theme this month is
Alternatives
5 WAYS TO MOVE PAST YOUR DOUBTS AND GET ON WITH IT

Barbara in Maine

It is not an exaggeration to say that we spend our days moving closer to our dreams-or farther away. Every moment that we invest in our goals brings us closer and every moment we ignore the prompting of our hearts takes us somewhere else.

When people tell me that fear is a huge obstacle, I am quite certain that they have misdiagnosed the problem. Most of the time we are bewitched by self-doubt, not genuine fear (unless a tiger is about to devour us).

Self-doubt can afflict anyone, of course. When this occurs, the healthy approach is to combat it with action rather than remaining inert. The more alternatives you have for dealing with those tenuous times, the more quickly you'll move through them. 

If you quake at the thought of going out on your own and setting up shop, or a nervous about embarking on a new venture, here are five fearbashers that can reroute you back to the road to success.

  • Do temporary work. March into a temporary help agency and get signed up for a short term project. When you get an assignment, don't think of this primarily as a way to earn money. Use this project to do some homework. No matter what business you are sent to work in, observe what goes on in a detached and analytical manner. You'll quickly discover that all sorts of mistakes and mishaps (even stupid decisions) will be part of every day.

    Now notice that despite this lack of perfection, the business manages to stay afloat. Notice that every business has huge margins for error and it doesn't bring them crashing to their knees.

    You can certainly do better than that, can't you? So get out there and do it.
            
  • Study a successful immigrant entrepreneur. A high percentage of people who come here from other parts of the world start their own businesses. Imagine how much harder that would be in a strange culture where you may not speak the language. Yet, many of these newcomers have such a strong desire to build something of their own, a desire that they couldn't fulfill in their homeland, that the obstacles melt in the face of that determination.

    We natives often look like wimps next to the hardworking and committed businessowners who have been drawn to this land of opportunity. Let them inspire you.
         
  • Fail on purpose. Young children try new things without thinking of success and failure. As we get older, many of us avoid any situation where we might not be brilliant. As a result, our world shrinks down to a short list of acceptable activities. This is not the road to self-actualization.

    If you are terrified at the thought of failing, make a list all the things you are an utter klutz at doing. Then do something from that list once a week. At the very least, you may entertain your friends when you throw three gutter balls in a row.

    At the other end of this temporary humiliation is all the power you'll gain by surviving a minor failure.
             
  • Make Nathan Lane your patron saint. In 2000, the wildly talented Lane starred in his own television series which was downright awful. It was so terrible, in fact, that it only ran for a few painful episodes.

    Had it been even mildly successful, Lane would have been taping the series instead of wowing audiences in The Producers, a big Broadway hit for which he won the Best Actor Tony in 2001.

    If you try something that turns out badly, think of it as your own failed series-and celebrate the end of your contract.
           
  • Imagine your success. Too many people fail to go after their dreams or leave their comfort zones because they haven't taken the time to really think about what rewards their ultimate success would bring them. Instead, they console themselves by saying things like, "Well, this job or relationship or apartment isn't really that bad."

    However, when you are focused on the rewards that will inevitably come, setbacks and disappointments are easier to handle. Often, in truth, what looks like a setback is just a resetting of the course and may, in the long run, make the journey sweeter.

    That's why it's so important to be willing to defer short-lived gratification in order to have something grander in the future. But first you must envision it and sell yourself on the new and better life you foresee. 

     

TWO MORE WAYS TO FEED YOUR ENTREPRENEURIAL SPIRIT

 

Although I am only an occasional mystery reader, I discovered that any number of books in this genre feature entrepreneurial heroes and heroines who just happen to solve crimes in their spare time. Thanks to a tip from my sister Margaret, I have become quite smitten with the brilliant Maisie Dobbs and am gleefully working my way through the entire series.

Set in post World War I London, Dobbs opens her own private investigation agency. Dobbs uses techniques learned from her mentor to solve crimes using perception and intuition along with detailed investigative techniques. Her intelligence, courage and adventurous spirit make her a worthy heroine.

There are seven books in the series (so far), but if you want to explore them yourself be sure to begin with the first book, Maisie Dobbs, so you know the backstory of how it all began.

Although I'm feeling more settled in my new home every day, World Headquarters is far from being the orderly, yet inspiring, place I envision. To add a bit of momentum to this on-going project, I got out a lovely book called Where Women Create. Jo Packham shows us the exquisite places where twenty artists pursue their passions. If your World Headquarters is in need of inspiration, this book is a fine place to begin.

Maisie Dobbs (Book 1)

by Jacqueline Winspear by Penguin Books
Paperback ~ Release Date: 2004-05-25
List Price: $15.00
Our Price: $7.46
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Where Women Create: Inspiring Work Spaces of Extraordinary Women

by Jo Packham by Sterling/Chapelle
Hardcover
List Price: $24.95
Our Price: $11.85
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TWO SPECIAL EVENTS

 

Las Vegas, May 21

I'll be heading back to zany Las Vegas where I'm doing Making a Living Without a Job and Establish Yourself as an Expert sponsored by UNLV's Continuing Education Program. Both of these old favorites can help you put the odds in your favor if you're heading down the self-employment road.

To register for either or both of these, call 702-895-3394 or online.

Denver, June 4


After the terrific response to last year's Un-Job Fair, Colorado Free University is offering this all-day exploration of self-employment again. Tama Kieves, Steve Veltkamp and other joyfully jobless folks will be sharing great ideas and information on how to get started-and keep going.

Un-Job Fair

Buona fortuna,
 
Barbara Winter

Barbara Winter

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