February 2, 2013
Barbara Winter's Joyfully Jobless News
Dear Barbara,

We're moving from an age of competition to an age of collaboration, an age of ambition to an age of inspiration.

~ Marianne Williamson

In This Issue
Postcard from Barbara
5 Powerful Reasons to Attend Workshops in Person
Why Jill Creates
Next Stops: Houston and Phoenix
Barbara Online
Buon Viaggio Blog
The theme this month is
Build a Better Business

When Lisa Tarrant took over from Peter Vogt as my Web Wizard, the three of us had a conference call. The first thing Peter said was, "Barbara knows what she wants to know and she knows what she doesn't want to know."


I thought of that yesterday when my sister Margaret showed up with her bag of tools to install a new handle on my front door. Even though the box the handle came in had assured me that it was easy to do, I knew better. I also know that Margaret has all sorts of skills and talents I do not possess.


If you've been in one of my Making a Living Without a Job seminars, you may recall hearing me say that one of the great gifts of self-employment is that it gives you an excuse to be a lifelong learner. If we're wise, we also learn what we don't want to learn.


That's where collaboration comes in. We're hearing a great deal about that these days and that's a good thing. Of course, that's precisely why I decided to create the experiment I'm calling the Collaboratory. One of the bonuses of this idea is that I'm getting to know folks who share my passion for creative self-employment. They all have talents and resources I do not possess.


I'm not the only one receiving that bonus, however. In January, the first Joyfully Jobless Weekend collaboration took place in Dallas and it was a joy to see how much the participants were enjoying the new connections with kindred spirits made during the event. (Read on and you'll meet two of them.)


Although perfectionists may cringe at the notion of others finding out they can't do everything themselves, we need to find those who have different pieces of the puzzle than we have. If a collaborative project comes out of those connections, that's even better. 


Done properly, collaboration is a real power tool for creating a lively, growing business.



By Steve Coxsey


I am a big fan of distance learning through teleseminars and webinars. All of my coaching classes take place over a bridge line. I also advocate watching videos or listening to recordings or reading transcripts made of live workshops. If you can't be there, you still get a lot of the experience.


But not all of it.


There are experiences that people have at workshops when they attend live that can't be duplicated. Here are 5 of the most powerful.


Seminar Room Meet people who share your deep values

I have been to gatherings of therapists, coaches, and business owners. I search for people who share my love of lifelong learning and my commitment to becoming and creating. Finding someone I "click" with in those gatherings has been like finding a needle in a haystack. 


But when I have attended workshops with groups of people coming to learn and apply their learning in an area that excites me, I find kindred spirits. They're personal chefs, fitness trainers, organizing consultants, comedians, and writers. If I looked in those groups I would still be looking for needles in a haystack. At a workshop, the needles come together in one room.


Be part of a group that develops a feeling of community

I have been in small groups that develop a strong sense of community and connection, but it usually happens over a long period of time. I felt it in a weekly professional writers' group I attended for years, and I feel it in my coaching support group. But it's rare. 


When I have attended workshops with people sharing their enthusiasm and commitment to learning and growing, community has developed easily. The people who attend are open-hearted, inviting, and interested in learning about other people. And they are eager to see you succeed.


Participate in the power of the mastermind

Napoleon Hill introduced the idea of the mastermind 75 years ago in Think and Grow Rich. When a group of people gather to focus on similar goals and challenges, even if their individual focus is their own results, they gain perspective from other people's points of view. They see an obstacle is a puzzle instead of a problem, or a changing environment as an opportunity instead of certain decay. 


On top of that, people who invest themselves in the process experience the presence of an additional mind, a shared mind, the mastermind . In Jungian psychology it's the collective unconscious. In coaching it's the power of intuition and listening at the third level. Whatever it is, it's powerful, it's exciting, and it can happen among the people who attend workshops.


A strong commitment to yourself

In order to attend a workshop, you have to set aside your time and money. You have to pay for the event, and you may have to pay for travel, too. Through those commitments, you show yourself the workshop experience is important to you. That focus energizes your internal dance of becoming and creating. When you show yourself that you value becoming and creating, your heart and mind are more open and receptive to what you are going to experience.


Get in the conversation

This is a phrase I learned from Barbara Winter. When you are passionate about something, or drawn to it, or just curious about it, you explore how it fits you by getting in the conversation. As you talk to people knowledgeable in that area, you find out how much you know and what you need to learn. 


You also find out where to find resources and how to learn from other experts. By engaging with other people who are the interested seekers, you can put your own ideas on the table and get feedback. A workshop of people gathered around a shared interest is a fantastic opportunity to start conversations. It's also a fantastic opportunity to make connections so you can keep the conversations going after the event.


Bonus Reason: Meet your mentor in person

I have read Barbara Winter's book Making a Living Without a Job, I subscribe to her printed newsletter Winning Ways, I have attended her teleclasses, and I have listened to the audio of Making Dreams Happen, a multiple day training and workshop event where Barbara Winter, Barbara Sher, and Valerie Young presented. I have even spoken with Barbara Winter on the phone and exchanged emails with her several times. None of these compare to the experience of talking with her at a live event. None.


Commit your time, your money, your mind, and your heart to your own process of becoming and creating. Find a workshop that's calling out to you and attend. 



Steve Coxsey is an ICF certified coach who helps self-employed people navigate work and life off the beaten path. You can learn all about his self-employment coaching at www.SteveCoxsey.com.


I met Jill Allison Bryan at the Joyfully Jobless Weekend in Dallas. In addition to being a singer and songwriter, Jill is also a creativity coach. Love her short Why I Create video. You will, too.   


You can find out more about Jill's work by visiting her Web site Creative Oasis Coaching




As you may have noticed, I've scheduled the early Joyfully Jobless Weekends in places that may be a bit balmier in the early months of the year. Houston is coming up next on February 15 & 16. If you're not off on a long romantic Valentine's weekend with your sweetie, we'd love to have you join us for our lovefest of a different kind.


The following weekend, February 22 & 23 Phoenix will be the host city for the Joyfully Jobless festivities. You can join me for one of the seminars or immerse yourself in all three. 


Get the scoop at Joyfully Jobless Weekend



Buon Viaggio,


Barbara Winter

Barbara Winter 


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